Finding the guy you’re meant to spend your life with is not an easy thing to do. There are so many great men out there, but finding the right one for YOU is the challenge. If you really want to know if he’s the guy (or she's the girl!) who you’re meant to grow old with, ask yourself if your partner does these things for you in your relationship:
1. TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE
Your friends, gossip magazines, and commitment-phobe exes might’ve convinced you that you shouldn’t bring up topics like marriage and kids and the future, but that’s BS if that's what you want. The right man will actively bring up topics about the future because he sees one with you. 2.5 kids, a picket fence, and a dog isn't for everyone, but your future plans should match!
2. COMFORT YOU WHEN YOU’RE UPSET
If you’re going through a tough time, your partner should make it their mission to help you through it. He should be doing everything in his power to be whatever you need, whether that means giving you advice, providing a shoulder to cry on, or joining you on the couch for a binge-watching session.
3. BE HER COMPLETE SELF AROUND YOU
When someone is truly worth your time, she should be able to share even the less pleasant parts of her past with you. If she’s too embarrassed to let you see her in her more vulnerable moments, you’re going to have a tough time building a trusting relationship with a strong foundation.
4. MAKE AN EFFORT WITH YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Your loved ones are an important part of your life, and any man you see in your future should recognize and understand this without question. No matter the differences they might have or how busy he is, he’ll put the work in to get to know your loved ones if he’s interested in being with you for the long haul. Be careful though, if you're in a relationship with someone who has a busy life and has other priorities, make sure you can handle that from the get-go.
5. GO OUT OF HER WAY TO MAKE YOU HAPPY
Your forever person should want to do everything she can to see you smile. She should make your contentment a priority not simply because it benefits him, but because it’s what someone should do when she’s in love. This doesn't mean putting her life on hold to chase her man around but it does mean that she remembers the little things.
6. ALWAYS BE HONEST, EVEN WHEN IT’S HARD
There isn’t a person on this planet who enjoys having those difficult conversations, but that’s an inevitable part of being in a mature relationship. Any man worth loving will always be open and willing to discuss anything with you, no matter how uncomfortable it may be. You can’t hope to build a future with anyone who hides away from the truth.
7. MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL
A relationship meant to last forever has to be nothing short of magical. Practical? Yes. Full of compromise? Absolutely. But you should still have those moments when he makes you feel like you’re the only girl on the planet. That special feeling should be present from day one, and it should never fade away. Of course, there’ll be challenges, but if you’re important to her, she’ll always make it known through his actions.
8. LISTEN TO YOU
Communication is fundamental to a successful and long-lasting partnership. It involves not only being able to voice your own feelings but also listening to what your partner has to say. Just as you make time to hear him out, he should always make the effort to listen to whatever might be going through your mind no matter what it is.
9. INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS LOVED ONES
If you find yourself dating a guy for months without meeting a single one of his friends or family members, run. Guys like that are scared of commitment and have no intention of ever weaving you into their lives. The man you’re meant to be with will want his loved ones to get to know you so they can see exactly why he adores you so much. He’ll want to show you off and make you feel like you’re a part of his special circle of people.
10. NEVER STOP DATING YOU
The secret of couples who never fall out of love is that they continue to put in the same amount of effort they put in at the very start of the relationship. Even if you’re both super busy, you should be dedicating at least one night a week to spending quality time together. If he continues to court you years after he’s already won your heart, you’ll know he’s the one.